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WTF: Thank YOU

July 1, 2014

Can I just say I am blown away?! I never would have imagined the outpouring of love and support from you all. I was in tears reading all of your kind messages, tweets, emails and texts. Gabe said, “Why are you crying babe?”  I sniffled and said, “Because everyone is being so kind to me.” Yes perhaps, the massive amounts of drugs in my system are making me overly emotional, buuuuuut still your words made my heart smile. 

In sharing my story I am definitely hoping to help others, but also selfishly I wanted to help myself. I felt like I’ve been carrying around this heavy secret forever now and it’s really weighing me down. Avoiding friend’s phone calls so I don’t have catch them up on my “situation”, dismissing the “are you preggo yet” questions on Facebook and trying to hide the most important decision in my life. It’s exhausting! Welp, now that the cats outta the bag and I feel lighter, relieved and somehow peaceful. So thank you. 

I was truly amazed by all the messages I got from others who shared similar WTF experiences. When you’re going through something tough, it real does help to know you’re not alone. Safety in numbers, right? I won’t reveal any names, but check out some of these responses…

“Just read your story I will be thinking and praying for you daily. It took my daughter 13 yrs to get pregnant doing everything your doing, then without trying 5 yrs later she got pregnant by surprise with her 2nd.”

“I had 12 miscarriages, a prolapsed uterus after my first child. I had a second after all those miscarriages. They told me no more kids, but six years later, pregnant, and was in bed from the fifth month on and all my babies were fine.”

“We did 5 rounds of IVF (all unsuccessful) and finally “gave up” and just started looking at other options years ago. Long story short, I think the stress of infertility was the worst part, and after we stopped pressing and were researching other options such as adoption, we got pregnant naturally. I know it sounds silly, but I heard similar stories from other friends of ours who did the whole IVF thing too. We were fortunate enough to have two wonderful daughters now.”

“After about 5-6 years we literally gave up and felt like it was just going to be “us” for the rest of time. At 9 years we both got check out and like you guys the dr said we were not only good but above average and should have no problem conceiving. We had one miscarriage at about 8 years and finally after giving up God blessed us with a miracle.”

Those are just a few of the dozens of beautiful messages I received. I feel overwhelmed by your love and inspired by your strength. What a wonderful network of support we’ve created here. Thank you friends. I’m off to an important Doctor’s appointment now. We’re counting follicles and finding out our retrieval date!! Wish me luck! 

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3 Comments

  • Reply Anonymous July 1, 2014 at 7:41 am

    Your time will come when you least expect it. If it’s meant to be it will. Sending good vibes your way 🙂

  • Reply Adrienne Prather-Marcos July 1, 2014 at 7:09 pm

    It is beyond amazing that you’ve decided to share such very personal information. All the women who have had WTF moments getting pregnant, including myself – love you for it! It was devestating to know we couldn’t have a baby on our own. I am so thankful to God we found an amazing fertility doctor right away. All the shots & hormones were worth all the side effects, just to get pregnant. When we found out we were having twins, it was cloud nine. When we lost one of our baby boys I was beyond devestated. To this day i do not understand this cruel joke. I trust God’s plan but it does not make it easier. Because of this lose I had a horrible, high risk pregnancy. Bed rest and a million appointments and doctors saying don’t be surprised if you lose this one too. WTF? It was difficult to the very last minute of being pregnant and I had an emergency c-section because James was stuck. This baby didn’t really want to be in me but he didn’t really want to come out either. And when we did he scored a 1 on the APGR test. The doctors told my husband to stop recording. It is a moment I will never forget. I’m praying for you and asking God to answer prayers. He doesn’t plant dreams in our heart without fulfilling them. You will be a mom, I promise. Our biggest obstacles are used in life to witness to others and that’s exactly what you’re doing. Never give up hope. God is good all the time, and all the time God is good. I promise your baby will mean so much more to you when it does. You will cherish every moment like we do. When most first time parents freak out you will be giving praise because all those late night, no sleep moments are everything you hoped it would be. Jeremiah 29:11 says “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares God, “plans to prosper you and not harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.”

  • Reply Patti July 1, 2014 at 8:21 pm

    Hi Alexis:

    Oh my goodness, obviously we (as in your fans/friends) had no idea what you have been going through these last two years. It’s funny how you can look at a beautiful woman like you, always with a smile on your face, so upbeat and positive and the entire time you are struggling to fulfill your life long dream of being a mother. God bless you honey (which I am sure He is). I hope you know that you are not alone and that you have many women who have gone through your struggles and come out the other end with a bouncing baby boy or girl as proof that you will get through this and in the end you too will be the lucky mommy of a beautiful baby. My prayers, good wishes and positive baby vibes are coming your way. I truly believe that there is a reason for all of our life’s struggles and challenges, but that with His divine intervention we be exactly who we are meant to be. I feel in my heart you are meant to be a mom and it WILL happen. Just keep the faith. Your friend in Phoenix.

    XO
    Patti

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