By Tasha Blasi, guest blogger
I did ten rounds of IVF to have my children. Hudson was round two and Mila was round ten.
When I share this party trick of mine, I can tell if someone has also experienced fertility issues by the next question that they ask me.
For those that have not needed fertility treatments to conceive, they ask, “Wow, how much did that cost you (in dollars)?”
For those that needed fertility treatment to conceive, they ask, “Wow, how much did that cost you (in mental health)?”
It cost us tens of thousands of dollars. Maybe $100K? I will never know. I know that we paid out of pocket in full for one round, and then had some insurance covering the other nine rounds, but I am not masochistic, so I carefully avoided adding up the overall total even though I had our IVF bills in one place.
While the financial toll of IVF came and left quickly for each round (like ripping off a band-aid), the emotional toll of IVF came, never left, and just kept growing and changing (like an infected wound that you never uncovered to look at and just kept hidden under a band-aid).
At first, I was cocky. I was doing IVF in NYC. They had to be the best if they are in NYC, right? Also, I was young and healthy, and our fertility issues were due to my husband’s low sperm count so we would have no issues creating tons of healthy embryos, right? Plus, I was successful at anything I worked hard at, so IVF will be the same, right?
Of course, I was wrong about all of those things. Soon, my attitude changed from confident to hopeless. I was not cocky anymore, I was afraid.
Watching round 6,7, 8, and 9 fail, without even a positive pregnancy test, unraveled me. It didn’t make sense. I had been pregnant before, so my body knew what to do, and I didn’t have any known fertility issues.
I was confused and felt lost, but I was not ready to give up. For the last round, I made some hard changes. The first was changing doctors for the fourth time. I also worked on environmental and mindset issues that could be getting in the way of my success.
I am proud of my path and my very pricey children. I don’t have any regrets in my fertility journey. In fact, my only regret in life is not spending the money to see the original cast of Hamilton. 🙂
But I don’t want anyone else to make my mistakes and go through what I did for those years.
For this reason, I left my career and started the FU Project so women can go through their fertility journey so much easier, cheaper, kinder, and quicker than I did. My customized “Method to Motherhood™” for women is simple and streamlined. I focus on the four elements that need to be solid for IVF success rates to get close to 100% (within two embryo transfers)* vs. the average 35% national success rates for IVF.**
The four elements are Science, Environment, Mindset, and Support.
Today, I work with one woman at a time. Soon, my “Method to Motherhood™” will be incorporated into the top fertility clinics around the world. They are already calling, but I am holding off on any partnerships for now. I need more time to just focus on my program. I am just getting started!
If you would like answers to what is stopping you from getting or staying pregnant, please call me so I can help you. I offer complimentary strategy sessions so women can learn what might be the missing link in their fertility journey that will finally make them successful.
I am so grateful and proud to know that soon IVF will focus on more than just the woman’s uterus and ovaries. And all women will go through a kinder, easier, and quicker IVF journey.
I see the future of IVF and ‘it’s finally positive.”
Tasha Blasi (@tashablasi IG, @thetashablasi FB) is a fertility coach and founder of the Fertilitites Unite Project (FU Project). She offers complimentary fertility strategy session for some women considering or doing IVF so please take advantage of this opportunity. You can apply for one at www.tashablasi.com/connect.
*FU Project’s Method to Motherhood success rates based on 100+ women.