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Taking My Fertility Into My Own Hands

November 24, 2017

Written by Brooke Papp, WTF Contributor

I didn’t think I would ever get to this part of my journey because I didn’t think it would take this long – meaning, I didn’t think I would have a ‘journey’. We’re on month 9. So, I’m sad. But I’ve heard this so much lately: people don’t like sad.

I call bullshit.

Miscarriage is sad, guys. And those people who have been through it need friends – it [ the pain ] doesn’t dissipate. Especially when it doesn’t just ‘happen for them’.

People need you when they’re sad. It’s called life. It’s called friends. It’s called support.

Here’s what I’ve done to ‘make myself feel better’. To ‘help my fertility’. To ‘take matters into my own hands’:

  • I’ve given up perfume.
  • I wear makeup to weddings. Only weddings.
  • I’ve switched all my plastic Tupperware to glass. Do you know you shouldn’t cook in non-stick pans?  Now you do…stainless steel only in the Papp household.
  • I (VERY!) rarely drink caffeine throughout the day like I used to.
  • I take 8 supplements a day. EIGHT.
  • We remove our shoes at the door…’cause?  They can be tracking in lead.
  • I don’t use febreeze. My husband has Crohns – think about it.
  • I stopped taking my prescribed anti-depressants because they aren’t helpful for conceiving. Even though by taking them, I have felt more like myself than I have in months.
  • I’ve taken time off drinking. Multiple times. I love wine. Do you know my life? I deserve wine.
  • I walk or workout Even if that means waking up at 4 a.m. I do it. Because I need to.
  • I’ve rubbed oils in every place you can imagine.
  • I don’t eat food out of cans. Or cartons. Or plastic containers. I don’t eat foods that are processed. Or fried. Anything that’s fun – shouldn’t have it. So, lots of broccoli for me.


I have about, oh, 80 ovulation sticks in our cabinet – ready to go!

I don’t use scented lotion. Or body wash. And I don’t paint my nails anymore. Yah, me.

All of the fun of being a girl HAS ESCAPED MY LIFE, OK?? And today? I don’t ovulate. And now? I don’t even get my period. Yah, I know it’s stress. Tell me how to relieve it. ‘Cause it doesn’t work.

Newest task: getting in to see a specialist. Meh. Meh. Meh.

I’ve downloaded the app, deleted the app, downloaded the app.

I’ve heard ‘time is of the essence’ – which is totally a case by case basis. Some people say 35 is where it starts to get concerning while others say fertility issues can start as early as 30. It’s the person.

None of this has been fun or rewarding. I don’t feel empowered by not painting my nails or smelling like the Anthropologie candle aisle. I like that stuff. And you can bet your buns, it will be back in my life the second I birth a babe. My sweet babe that I pray for on the regular.

Oh, how I long for chubby, little baby feet in this pic (along with Helmut, of course).

So…what I’m now sharing is…the process. Let’s see how this goes!

[Oh and if one person says ‘it’s just not your time’, I may use the methods I used from the Miss USA’s self defense class I took a couple weeks back.]

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Learning To Simply Be

November 21, 2017

Written by Tiffany Johnston, WTF Contributor

At the end of every infertility journey you likely will face one of two outcomes: defeat or pregnancy. While pregnancy is what we all long for and desire, sometimes that outcome is simply not in our cards. Just as each pregnancy is unbelievably different so is every infertility struggle. Some pass quickly, and some drag on for what seems like an eternity. Often during our infertility journey, I found it hard to not think about what an easy pregnancy we would deserve if that if that time ever came. However, both of our miracle pregnancies have left us in the midst of very different struggles.

Ever since we started our second infertility journey I have made it goal to be open and honest about our successes and struggles. And in all honesty, this pregnancy has been utterly exhausting, challenging, and just plain frustrating. With multiple visits to Labor and Delivery that started at 26 weeks, it burdened us early on with a steadily growing mound of medical bills on top of those we were already working to pay off from the infertility treatments. It’s as if we simply can’t win and that around each turn is another struggle. I know that each pregnancy is very different just as every round of infertility treatments can be like night and day.

With our first son, the infertility procedures proved to be almost flawless. Then, during the last three months, I had a lot of rib pain because our miracle babe had decided to be positioned in a permanent back dive pike and use my rib cage as a punching/kicking bag (I am talking full on Mike Tyson). This time we faced spotting, from a less than optimal distance between my placenta and cervix, extremely early contractions that have continually lead me straight into overwhelming nausea, and unparalleled dizziness. Basically I’ve decided that this kiddo has a complete lack of disregard for mama wanting to nest. This pregnancy has been nothing like our first. In fact, I would go as far as to say that it’s been miserable. I am done, finished, and ready for this kiddo to come out, but I digress.

A few weeks ago I had become so miserable physically from placenta and cervix proximity issues that we decided I had no choice but to stop working outside of the home as the stress and commute were increasing my contractions and decreasing my ability to withstand even some of the most basic hardships of the third trimester. It turns out that being on partial bed rest while raising our now three year old and renovating a house is darn near impossible. I mean there is no cap on taking on the world right? We all want to be supermom.

Truthfully, it feels good to have made it this far along. I feel proud that we not only made it successfully through the first two trimesters and somehow I managed to not riddle myself with a ton of anxiety and stress over what could be, but now we have surpassed every doctor’s belief that we could likely deliver 4-10 weeks early. This baby is reminding me that although just over nine months ago I was willingly dissecting my body to become pregnant through chemicals, procedures, holistic remedies, essential oils, diet, acupuncture, chiropractic care, and more. Now I have to step back, listen to our doctors, family and friends, and simply be. Be one with the notion that at 38 weeks I won’t be canning in the kitchen with my mother or painting three rooms in our house like I did with my first son. That in all likelihood the remodeling projects won’t be finished in time, the baby’s room will not be put together, and the bills will still be there. I must constantly remind myself that the moment we got our BFP I was granted the amnesty to rest, breathe, and simply be in the miracle that we are being blessed enough to experience.

While our first infertility miracle reminded us of what could be and the power of change, this baby has given me even more than I could ever imagined. He has reminded me day after day that I simply must slow down, enjoy the cuddles that my growing toddler is still willingly gifting, and be humbled in knowing that while I have temporarily traded in my super mom status (i.e.: being the homemaker, working in an office, running a small business, and blogging), we unequivocally knew what we were signing up for. I mean, this isn’t our first time to the infertility rodeo.

In all reality, with every stage of pregnancy comes a mixed bag of emotions and feelings. I want time to simultaneously hurry up and slow down all at once. Physically, I want to be done I am exhausted and tired of the contractions and hospital visits and pain that makes me dizzier than a tilt-a-whirl. But emotionally, I’m so happy that this baby is staying put, especially when this could quite possibly be the last time we will ever be pregnant and I want to savor every moment of the blessing.

In no way is this path of our journey easier than the last. It is simply similar and different all at once. I do not long for the heartache, exhaustion, and pain of our infertility journey as I longed for another baby. I simply have begun to realize that in each stage of our journey, we are blessed with challenges that will shape and mold us as people, parents, and members of society. So as we slowly approach the arrival of our newest miracle baby I will try to cherish each contraction, dizzy spell, and moment that someone tells me to sit down and rest. For I know now more than ever that sometimes we must just let things be and savor the journey whether difficult or easy.

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What The…? To Sue Or Not To Sue

November 17, 2017
The Scoop:

A New York fertility clinic is being sued by two couples over donated eggs that resulted in the birth of children with a genetic defect known as Fragile X syndrome. The couples say the clinic should have tested the donors to screen the women for the condition and are suing for the cost of raising a disabled child. The clinic says “Hold on. This happened years ago. Why sue now?”

Tell Us:

Do these couple have a right to sue or is it a risk they took using donated eggs? Tell us your thoughts in the comments!

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What the Sperm?

November 16, 2017

Written by Aileen Chun, Belly Armor CEO & Co-Founder

Infertility can be a pretty touchy subject. Going from dreams of baby bumps and new family members to the sober realization that the journey to pregnancy will be much more difficult or altogether impossible is a harsh reality that many couples must come to terms with. In addition to dealing with “When’s the baby due?” and “Are you guys even still trying?” -type questions from friends and family, couples experiencing infertility often face the societal stigma that comes from being unable to conceive. Couples may feel isolated or believe their situation is abnormal, but according to the National Survey of Family Growth, 1 in 8 couples have trouble conceiving. Most likely, at least one of your friends or family members has struggled with infertility at some point. For the couples experiencing it, infertility is definitely a problem, but it is by no means an isolated problem or one to be ashamed of.

In the past, when couples realized that they were having trouble conceiving, the responsibility often fell on the woman to solve the problem; What tricks or remedies could she use to boost her fertility? We now know that infertility is just as much a ‘he’ issue as it is a ‘she’ issue, with male infertility accounting for just under half of all fertility issues that couples face. And, judging by findings from The French Institute for Public Health Surveillance that sperm count among men worldwide is down by 30%, fertility issues due to male infertility are only expected to rise in the coming years.

For men who are experiencing or are worried about infertility, there are some areas they can focus on to alleviate the problem or reduce their risk. While this list of possible factors is by no means exhaustive, it can start you down the road to having happy, healthy sperm. (Also, if you are concerned that you are experiencing infertility, it is important to discuss with your doctor.)

  • Age – Experts recommend having children before the age of 40 because……. If you are getting close to 40 or past 40, want children but not quite ready yet, freezing sperm is an option you might want to consider.
  • Get Tested – Ask your doctor to test your sperm. Tests include sperm count, quality of the sperm (viability), and how well the sperm move (motility). This could help you better understand whether sperm health is an issue, and if it is, determine with your doctor how to address it.
  • Lifestyle – To give your sperm the best chance, you should avoid any smoking and excessive drinking. It is also important to get a healthy 8 hours of sleep.
  • Medications – Some medications can lower sperm count, so you should ask your doctor about the impact of medications you are taking if you are trying to get pregnant.
  • Smartphones – Studies such as one done by the Cleveland Clinic have linked cell phone and other wireless device use with up to a 40% decrease in sperm quality. It is a good idea to limit your cell phone use and be mindful of where you carry it on a daily basis. Your pants pockets is not a good place to keep devices because of their proximity to the testes.

If, like most men, you prefer not to carry a man-bag and not putting your cell phone in your pocket isn’t an option, RadiaShield Technologies’s award-winning Anti-Radiation Boxer-Briefs is one solution you could consider.

These boxers have been designed to proactively protect a man’s reproductive organs and shield their sperm from wireless radiation. Made of a Modal/Spandex blend and RadiaShield® Fabric, the boxers are lightweight, breathable, and machine washable. The proprietary RadiaShield® Fabric on the codpiece works by neutralizing (through reflection and absorption) incoming EMF waves from cell phones, laptops, and other devices. When worn regularly, they can be highly effective at reducing a man’s exposure to wireless radiation and protecting his sperm.

When you do conceive, Belly Armor (by RadiaShield Technologies) also makes a stylish line of anti-radiation maternity clothing and blankets to reduce your baby within from exposure to wireless radiation. Check out their full line here.


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About the company: Belly Armor is the definitive resource for families looking to protect themselves against the harmful effects of everyday radiation, providing knowledge about the health risks from wireless technologies and designing products to help reduce exposure.

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The Worst and Best Day of My Life

November 14, 2017

Written by Aniesa Fadilla, guest blogger

How can the worst day of my life also be the best day of my life?

We had our daughter for 5 whole months. We loved her more than anything in this world.

When we found out we were pregnant, it was the best day of our lives. I remember my husband asking me to take another test because he couldn’t believe it. So, I took the other test and just like the first, it was positive! We lay in bed that morning laughing and crying tears of joy together! It was amazing. We couldn’t believe that without trying or thinking about it, we conceived a child. We were going to be someone’s parents.

Our pregnancy was pretty uneventful. I was heathy and all of the baby’s check ups were excellent. At the 20 week anatomy scan, we found out we were having a girl! We named her Ava Rae Knapp.

That was a Saturday. By Tuesday, Ava had no heartbeat.

I was confused, numb, and in both emotional and spiritual pain. How could this happen? I remember going into labor and not wanting to push her out. I didn’t want her to leave me. I wanted to keep her inside of me, but being inside of me wasn’t safe. I couldn’t keep her safe anymore. I felt like a failure – my body had failed her and my body failed me.

On November 4th, I delivered Ava at 11:23 pm with her daddy by my side. We held her and cried. And prayed. How can the worst day of my life also be the best day of my life? I held my daughter so tight. Although she was lifeless, she was still my life. Still my daughter.


Three years later, with several failed IUIs, temping, tracking my fertile days, eating organic, taking supplements, and “not thinking about it”, I still haven’t gotten pregnant. Secondary unexplained infertility is what it’s called.
I’m 38 now and motherhood eludes me. Infertile? Never thought I would carry that label. November 4th has come and gone. Another year has passed. Three years since the best and worst day of my life.

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Waiting on an Angel

November 9, 2017

Written by Lauren Bates, guest blogger

Hi, there! My name is Lauren. My husband, Ryan, and I are attorneys and live in Encinitas, California. After a several year-long journey, we recently adopted a beautiful baby girl and in light of World Adoption Day, I am honored to share our story.

We always wanted a family, so we started trying shortly after we were married in 2013. After trying for a while on our own, we had all of the tests done – and they came back normal. I knew conceptually that it was a good thing that the test results were normal, but I was also disappointed.

How can you fix something if nothing is “wrong”?

We were used to being in control and solving problems for a living, so this was an incredibly difficult concept for us. For the first time in our lives, no amount of hard work, research, studying, or creative thinking could solve this problem and get us the one thing we wanted the most.

We saw a specialist, did two rounds of Clomid, and then one IUI. Unfortunately, I reacted very poorly to the Clomid and the injectable medication used during the IUI. At that point, we made the decision that we would not pursue any further fertility treatments because it was not good for my health.

It was a difficult decision to make, but also a relief in so many ways. We started discussing the possibility of adoption, and both felt strongly that this was the right path forward for us. For years, it had been sad to discuss our unsuccessful efforts at starting a family. But once we began looking into adoption, we had a renewed excitement for what was to come.

We began researching adoption agencies and attended several information sessions. We also spoke with a couple (who were friends of friends) who adopted through a local adoption facilitator in San Diego, and they had a very positive experience. After attending the information session for the facilitator, we knew it was the right fit for us and we began the application process. It took about 6 months from when we attended the information session to when we were officially on the “wait-list.”

Waiting for a match was incredibly difficult. In a way you feel like you’re expecting, but you have no idea when your baby is due. You are told to continue to live your life and it will happen when it is meant to, but that is so much easier said than done! I found it hard to plan anything, because I spent the entire time thinking that it could happen any day now.

All in all, we waited 1 year, 2 weeks, and 6 days.

Finally, on a Tuesday night in September, while we were out to dinner with my parents, who happened to be visiting, we got the call. We had been chosen by a birth mom! Our facilitator told us details about the birth parents and we knew it was the perfect match.

We asked, “When is the baby due?” Our facilitator paused for a long moment and then said, “Well, actually the baby is already here. She was born yesterday and is being discharged tomorrow. Can you come to the hospital tomorrow morning?” We were overcome with a range of emotions, but the most intense was joy and we didn’t hesitate to respond, “Yes, we will be there!”

The rest of the night was a blur as we didn’t sleep a wink. We went to the hospital the next morning and met with the birth mother for a couple of hours. We instantly connected and, for so many reasons, we all felt like this match was meant to be. She confirmed that she wanted to go forward with the adoption and that she wanted us to be the parents. There were many tears!

After several hours at the hospital, we finally got to hold our daughter for the first time, which was the most surreal and amazing moment of our lives. We took her home the same day, about 20 hours after we got the call. She is 8 weeks old now and doing great!

When we were in the thick of the waiting period, it was hard to understand why we had to wait so long and why we were not being chosen. We would tell ourselves that God had a plan and that there was a specific child that was meant to be ours that we were waiting for. I usually believed it, but sometimes it felt like an empty mantra we were just telling ourselves to feel better. Now that she is here, I can honestly say that I know without a doubt that she is the child we were always meant to have. I cannot imagine it happening any other way. We feel so incredibly blessed that she is finally here!

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Stress Does Impact Your Fertility… But How?

November 7, 2017

Written by Joanne Verkuilen, Founder of Circle+Bloom

Stress is pretty unavoidable these days. There are constant demands on our time and energy — not to mention expectations from family, work, community (and ourselves!). It can feel like a constant juggling act that’s exhausting and overwhelming. No one is immune – everyone feels stress to some degree. The biggest question is how we’re managing it.

How we manage stress is so critically important – especially for couples who are struggling with infertility – because in recent years, scientific studies have shown that sustained high levels of stress can have direct, negative impacts on our physical and mental health.

Everything truly is connected: stress, our emotional and mental state, our physical health, and our fertility.

Add the emotional turmoil of infertility to our constant state of “everyday stress”, and the impact is significant. Women who are experiencing difficulty getting pregnant can experience similar levels of depression and anxiety as those suffering from a life-threatening disease like cancer or heart disease.

Stress negatively impacts fertility. And unfortunately, stress is compounded when we try to conceive month after month, creating a downward spiral that is difficult to break.

How Does Stress Affect Infertility?

Telling a woman who is having difficulty getting pregnant to “just relax” is a painful suggestion. Not only does it imply that her infertility is somehow her fault, but it is also an overly-simplified view of the physical and psychological influences on the human reproductive system.

It is rarely as simple as “just relax”. However, addressing the causes and management of stress can often help improve fertility. This has been supported by several medical studies that found that stress and the hormones that help regulate our body’s response to stress play a significant role in fertility.

Several of these studies talk about:

  • The Stress Hormone Cortisol Affects Ovulation: Emory University’s Dr. Sarah Berga has noted that our brain’s hypothalamus (a walnut-sized area of our forebrain) handles functioning of our reproductive system AND regulates stress by emitting cortisol as needed to keep our bodies in balance. It manages a delicate interplay of hormones. Dr. Berga’s research has found that stress often leads to reduced levels of two hormones needed for ovulation. In a 2006 study, she found that women who did not ovulate had excessive levels of cortisol in their brain fluid. An earlier study also found that the majority of women who underwent cognitive behavioral therapy saw their ovulation restored.
  • The Benefits of Relaxation Training for Pregnancy: A study conducted by Harvard Medical School on 184 women going through relaxation training for infertility: 55% had a viable pregnancy within one year, compared to only 20% of the control group achieving a viable pregnancy.
  • Anxiety Delays Conception: In a study with women undergoing donor sperm insemination, those with higher levels of anxiety prior to undergoing inseminations took significantly longer to conceive.
  • Stress and Depression Significantly Reduce IVF Conception Rate: Women who were not stressed and/or depressed before starting IVF treatment had a conception rate twice as high as women who were stressed and/or depressed before treatment.

While “just relax” is hardly ever the complete answer to solve infertility, addressing both the source of stress and the way stress is handled in the body can help.

One way to help relieve the combined stresses from normal life and the added stress of trying to get pregnant is to use guided visualization and meditation. These methods can help you to take time for yourself everyday to deeply relax and help reset your body’s hormones.

Our friends at Circle + Bloom provide several medically-based visualization exercises specifically created to help with infertility that sync to your monthly reproductive cycle. Find out more about Circle + Bloom’s fertility visualization and meditation programs, and the science behind how they work.

Right now, Circle+Bloom is giving a 20% discount on all of their fertility programs just for readers of What The Fertility! with the code circlebloom20. Click here to learn more.

About Joanne

Circle+Bloom was born out of Joanne’s passion for helping women overcome stress and infertility linked to stress. She was diagnosed with PCOS in her late-teens and was told that having a child would be very difficult for her. She had two very different pregnancy experiences but is now a mother to two happy, beautiful children.

Joanne delivers the guided meditations you’ll find in Circle+Bloom programs, among other things. She seeks to advance mind-body awareness and is a contributor to the fertility community and conversation in the United States of America.

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Eat This, Not That

November 1, 2017
  • Written by Madeline MacKinnon, Guest Blogger

What should you eat when you’re trying to conceive?

There’s always been a lot of confusion around this topic. Your doctors may say there’s not much you can do to boost your fertility by way of nutrition. However, there is plenty of reputable research that links fertility to food.

You may be familiar with  “The Fertility Diet”, which uses the second Nurse’s Health Study from 1989 as a basis. Since then, more research has come out to support the same hypothesis, as this paper from 2016 notes:

“[Our] change in diet composition, over the last 100 years, has been associated to decreased fertility rates in women over the age of 35… [The] proportion of different polyunsaturated fats in the diet significantly influences prostaglandin synthesis and ovarian steroidogenesis, both having crucial role in the reproductive process.” (Fontana and Della Torre, 2016)

One thing is for sure, food does impact your fertility. Our body uses nutrients from food to build our hormones. We also need nutrients to ‘metabolize’ hormones, meaning either convert them into usable forms or effectively remove them from the body.

A deficiency of a certain nutrient is enough to affect your fertility since hormone balance (especially progesterone, estrogen and thyroid) is such an important piece of a healthy pregnancy. So what particular nutrients should you be focus and what foods should you eat to get them?

Folate is actually one of the main reasons women take prenatal vitamins. Folate is important for preventing birth defects. Make sure your prenatal supplement includes ‘methyl folate’, which is more easily absorbed than folic acid. Get folate from avocado, kale, beans and swiss chard.

B6 supports general hormone balance and fertility. Get B6 from sunflower seeds, sesame seeds, turkey, cod, wild salmon, pistachios and banana.

Healthy Saturated Fats are important for you hormone levels and producing optimal hormones. Hormones are built from fat! Get the best fats from fish oil, avocado, and grass fed butter… All are important for fertility.

Magnesium is an often overlooked but it’s also important for fertility. This mineral helps decrease stress, relax muscles, and supports progesterone levels in the luteal phase of your menstrual cycle. Being deficient in magnesium has also been linked to frequent miscarriages. My favourite food-based source of magnesium is steamed swiss chard, which we included the the fertility recipe below. Other great sources are avocado, spinach, pumpkin seeds, black beans and pumpkin.

What to avoid?

When you’re preparing to conceive, you need to guard your body against chemicals and compounds that sabotage your efforts.

Processed and rancid fats
Starvation diets or low fat diets
Soy (unless it’s fermented, like tempeh and miso paste)
Processed grains and flours

The journey towards optimal fertility is one you work towards every day. Get all the nutrients you require from an easy to eat, easy to digest fertility smoothie!

My Green Fertility Smoothie Recipe

1 cup water
1 cup steamed swiss chard
½ cup blueberries
½ frozen banana
½ avocado or 1 Tbsp sunflower butter
½ cup organic plain yogurt or kefir (optional)
2 Tbsp collagen peptide protein powder

Optional Fertility Boosters
1 tsp he shou wu powder
1 tsp bee pollen (don’t use if you have a bee allergy)

Get Our Free Ovulation Protocol

We designed a custom superfood smoothie for you to take 3-4 days around ovulation. It has 100% of your RDA of folate, estrogen-detoxing compounds, progesterone-supportive nutrients, and herbal aphrodisiacs! Click here to get our protocol.

Want to learn more in a Master Class? Join the live Webinar on Tuesday, November 7th at 7pm MST.

About Madeline

Madeline MacKinnon is the founder of Natural Hormone Healing and is a highly sought-after, leading expert in the emerging field of herbal culinary arts, elixir making and tonic herbalism. She dedicates her time, energy and education to help women from around the world to balance their hormones naturally without the use of drugs.

Get more functional nutrition info on her website, follow her on Instagram or on Facebook. You can also join her online community, The Vibrant Health & Hormone Balance Sisterhood to get all you need to know about women’s health and hormone balance.

The Deep Correlation between Energy Metabolism and Reproduction: A View on the Effects of Nutrition for Women Fertility. Fontana, R, and Della Torre, S. Published 11 February 216.
Nutrients 2016, 8(2), 87, doi:10.3390/nu8020087

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A Dream Is A Wish Your Heart Makes

October 25, 2017

Going through the ups and downs of infertility (mainly downs if we’re being honest) is no small feat. So if you’ve got a friend who’s struggling to conceive and you’re wondering should I reach out? The answer is YES! Without a doubt! There’s nothing better than knowing you’re not alone especially when times are tough. A phone call, coffee date or thoughtful little gift may be just what the doctor ordered to brighten her day.

Our friends at our new fav online boutique put together a comforting, uplifting gift guide for your TTC gal pal because, trust us, she could use a pick me!


Whether she’s given up all carbs completely or she’s exclusively eating chocolate these days, food related gifts are always a good idea. Take your favorite comfort food to the next level with this lavender sea salt. 

When in doubt, soak it out! These yummy sugar scrubs in a nice relaxing bubble bath will leave her feeling soft and oh so fresh – plus the scent smells like fresh baked cookies!

Our tassel pom pom throw in rosè is the perfect comfy blanket for the babe who deserves some serious cuddles, couch time and  a Netflix binge session!


A cup of tea really does make everything better. Share a consoling cuppa with your Best-Tea

A dream is a wish your heart makes. Package one of our wish gift tags with a hand carved heart shape bowl to remind her that she is loved!

The perfect refresh for a post infertility treatment. A quick spritz of rosewater mist can instantly lift spirits!

Our set of four stemless wine glasses is the perfect ‘Girl, I got you’ gift. Pair with her favorite vino and lotsa girl talk. is an online store featuring unique giftables, specialized beauty and delicate jewelry. WTF readers can enjoy 25% off any Shop Brooke Lindsay products! Use code WTF at checkout.



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The Stork Brings A Stark: Second Trimester

October 24, 2017

I am beyond grateful to be pregnant. I thank God everyday for this tiny life growing inside me. However, pregnancy isn’t all strong finger nails, thick hair and glowing skin. Let me be clear. I’m not complaining about pregnancy. I totally get how lucky I am to be carrying a life. I’m just keeping it real because while it’s THE GREATEST GIFT EVER…pregnancy can also really difficult. I am documenting the ups, the downs and the “glow” (guys, it’s sweat), through my 40 weeks of pregnancy.

Read about my first trimester here.
If I could sum up the second trimester with one word it would be swellnausea. Ok two words- swelling and nausea. I took my first pregnant flight at 13 weeks, first week of the third trimester and basically waddled around and elevated the entire vacation. I wish I could say the swelling just magically went away like the nausea (hallelujah- 20 weeks later), but it’s still something I’m dealing with. I swell up through my calves, not just my feet and sometimes my hands. I very rarely am able to get my engagement ring on but my wedding band never leaves my sausage finger. And of course, staying off my feet or drinking a lot of water aren’t the magic tricks- spin class is.
I bought an at home fetal doppler early on and would try it out every night. It wasn’t until about 13 weeks I could find the heartbeat and find it consistently. It became my little nightly routine after dinner to go sit in the rocking chair in the nursery and listen to his heartbeat. It is the sweetest sound, like music to my ears. At my 12 weeks ultrasound my doctor mentioned I had a left anterior placenta and would probably feel kicking earlier than most. At 17 weeks I felt him and he hasn’t stopped (we’re thinking an athletic scholarship). The first few times I dismissed it as muscle twitches (in retrospect I don’t know why, I’ve never had a muscle twitch in my stomach?) because it did not feel like a “flutter”, which is how I had heard it described before. The twitches changes to kicks and then to rolls and my the end of my second trimester I felt like I needed protection he became so strong.
My absolute favorite part of pregnancy to date was the anatomy scan at 21 weeks. To see every teeny tiny body part of this mystery person you are growing inside of you is unbelievable. Everything checked out perfectly, he had 10 fingers and 10 toes and is (still) a boy. We lucked out, when the ultrasound tech finished she said the doctor may or may not come in to speak with us. Luckily he did and gave us another chance to look at our sweet babe. He also “razzled and dazzled” us (his words), and flipped the ultrasound to 3D for a few minutes. It was unbelievable to see our baby go from skeletor (but really the cutest skeletor EVER) to an actual human. That is a moment I will never forget and I will cherish forever.
I’m am sitting here thinking about all of the amazing aspects of pregnancy. It is truly a miracle that a woman’s body can grow and house a baby and all of the technology we have to SEE and HEAR the baby. However I have really struggled with body image and it hit me hard in the second trimester. I’ve always been very fit and taken pride in the work I put into my body. If my pants started to get tight I would reel in the eating and amp up the workouts and soon I would be back to where I wanted to be. Not having that control during pregnancy has been a lot more difficult than I thought it would be. I feel like an alien in my own body and at times don’t even recognize myself in the mirror. This is something I am learning to deal with as I go but is very much a work in progress. I know it will be worth it in the end and after 40 short (but sometimes SUPER LONG) weeks, I can start to get back to my old self. Oh and if you’re wondering, the boobs have continued to grow with no signs of slowing down (how… really. How?)
At 28 weeks my doctor ordered my gestational diabetes test. I had heard so much about this test and how horrible it was. I ate my low carb breakfast (turkey sausage) and headed to the gym before. Well apparently it was a little too much protein because I ended up sick as a dog BEFORE I took my test but after about an hour I felt like I might actually live and headed to the lab. I was given a choice of a few flavors, I picked lime and chugged away. Granted, it wasn’t the best thing I’ve ever tasted but I for sure favored it over a shot of fireball. I waited the hour, they drew blood and I was on my way. All in all it was pretty painless and not nearly as bad as I had been warned. Oh- and I passed with flying colors! And just like that, 12 more weeks until baby Stark is here!

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